Alright let's go ahead and talk about it. Bridesmaids dress shopping is something that no one really wants to do. It's hard to please everyone. You're scared that you're going to make them get something that they hate, people are going to drop out on you, and ... let's not even go down that rabbit hole. You're going to be fine. They are going to be fine and we are going to make this thing happen together. Below I am giving you all of my tips and tricks to make Bridesmaids shopping less stressful, fun & productive. Because once you're done with this little bump, you're moving on to bigger things. Right?
I know you're probably freaked out with the thought of all of your friends getting together, with their many opinions and trying to decide on dresses that's right for everyone. Don't even sweat it. Let's take this thing one step at a time.
1. TALK ABOUT BUDGET PRIOR TO SHOPPING.
You would totally be surprised at how many brides & their bridesmaids walk into a store and the bride is totally wanting her besties to drop a $300-600 on a bridesmaids dress. I'm sure you can hear the reactions from your girls in you head now. "Ugh, No Ma'am. You're getting married, not me" or some variety of it.
Take a beat, talk to your friends individually or in a group chat about their budget, and how much they are comfortable with spending on this dress.
2. DO A LITTLE RESEARCH PRIOR TO.
Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with wandering around, but when you have your friends with you, and they are trucking in and out of stores getting them to try on dress after dress, you may want to have an idea of where you want to end up.
Call around a few places, see what sizes they carry. If they have any dresses that are similar to what you had in mind. It's your big day, but you want to make sure your girls are happy in whatever you put them in. Nobody wants their friend to have the "I hate my life and this dress" face on in their wedding photos. I know I don’t! Make a little map of the stores you will be hitting. Let your girls know what to expect and all that jazz, I promise they will appreciate and love all of the work that you’ve done on the front end.
3. SHOP EARLY!
Girl, for real! Get your shop on as early as possible. I have heard people say that they went Bridesmaids dress shopping as early as 8 months before the wedding.
Going shopping early means that if you fall in love with a dress, and they don’t have the number and sizes you need in the store, guess what... they can order that bad boy and it will be in before the big day. Less stress for you!
By shopping early you also leave time for those pesky alterations. And let’s be honest, you never know when you are going to need those.
4. KEEP YOUR EYES OUT FOR SALES!
I can promise you that your bridesmaids are not going to be opposed to saving a few dollars where they can. If you see a sale, and the dress fits the bill, give it a shot. If it works, then you didn't lose anything.
5. BE SELECTIVE ABOUT WHO YOU BRING!
I hear you back there. You have 42 bridesmaids and you want them all to be happy about the dress. Whew girl! Respect. 42 is a lot. Good luck trying to keep them all happy.
Want my advice? Bring 4-5 bridesmaids with you. You can always pull one of those majority rules as far as the dress is concerned. It's not going to hurt to bring a couple girls with different body shapes just so you can make sure the dress is flattering to everyone who will be rocking it
After you are 100% sure of the dress, bring them all in to try the lucky winner on. And make sure it fits in all of the right spots.
6. OVER COMMUNICATION IS BETTER THAN NO COMMUNICATION AT ALL.
This is a rule of life, not only your wedding but, lets just dive into what that means for you and your bridesmaids.
If you have an image in mind of a floor length, long-sleeve, all black bridesmaids dress for your outdoor summer wedding, let them know that as soon as possible.
You don't want to hear all of the huffs & puffs when you get them in a store trying dresses on and it clicks that they are going to be burned alive in the summer heat.
Just talk to your girls about what you want and what you want from them. I promise, talking will make everything so much w.
7. COME PREPARED.
You may want to tell the ladies to wear a strapless bra and have heels in hand. The last thing you want is to fall in love with a dress and realize that it is going to be way too short when your girls put their heels on.
9. HAVE FUN!
Now this one is the most important. Remember to have fun! This is one of the things that should be soaked up too! People focus so much on the big day that they don't stop to breathe in all of the many things that go into the day. This moment is just as important as everything else. Have fun with your girls. Make a day of it. Have lunch afterwards, drink some champagne. All of that good stuff!